Your ex has told you that he no longer loves you, or has told you that he is over you (or wants to get over you). In essence, your ex has made the message clear that she really just wants to move on. But the problem is that you can’t move on and you wonder if your ex will be able to love you again!
Here’s what to consider if you want your ex to love you back:
Love is a feeling, and feelings are created – You can’t feel extremely excited all the time, just like you can’t always feel angry. Our feelings don’t always last, therefore the only way we can sustain a feeling continuously is by making a conscious effort and doing things to help foster a certain feeling.
So, if you want your ex to love you back, you have to recreate it by doing the things that make your ex FEEL admiration for you. This will require more effort than when you started courting, because there are intermediate problems that you will have to solve, but it is not impossible.
Eliminate emotional baggage – Since love is a feeling, you can get discouraged if other feelings take over and become more consistent than love.
Therefore; it is possible that a person still loves you, but they hate you at the same time, because your actions make that person feel hurt and upset more than your actions make them feel loved.
What you need to do then is to REMOVE all the feelings that are blocking your ex from feeling true love for you. These feelings can be disappointment, anger, betrayal, mistrust, sadness, depression, etc…
All of these negative emotions stem from the problems you had when you were together. Apologizing and working on yourself is the best way to begin to eliminate those feelings.
The feelings don’t go away – This may sound counterintuitive, but you can only control how often a person feels something, but you can’t completely eliminate the feeling.
An excellent example of this is to consider when we are just babies and don’t even know how to feel. Our parents teach us how to react and help us learn what feelings are. Therefore, we go through life discovering and experiencing feelings, BUT once we experience that feeling, it never goes away.
For example, when you cry as a baby and learn that crying about something could be associated with being sad, for the rest of your life you are AWARE of the fact that you can feel sad, and sometimes you DO feel sad. THEREFORE, the feeling never goes away, it’s just the number of times you feel it that changes, depending on your experiences in life.
What this means, as far as your ex is concerned, is that they will never be able to get rid of the feeling of love that they had towards you. They can only try to suppress it with other feelings, but it will always be there. This means you can encourage him to go back outside and you can turn him back on as long as he takes the right steps.