Foreplay: 3 Easy Ways To Get Her In The Mood When She’s Not In The Mood

When you’re cold and eager to get in the shower to spray the hot water on your icy skin, how long do you want to wait for the water to heat up? Not much, right? And as guys, we feel the same way about sex. Who wants to wait to order the food, have the appetizer and eat the main dish? I know what I want and that’s dessert! Well, as we know, most of the time women do not share those same views. While we can always light our own sexual fire as easily as striking a match, sometimes it seems as difficult as rubbing two sticks together to light our woman’s “fire.”

Make no mistake, women love the sexual act just as much as we do, but they aren’t always ready to jump right in at the drop of a hat. As a man, you have to set the stage for lovemaking, create the right mood. Women love to feel guided during sex just like when they dance Salsa and there is no easier way to do it than by mastering the art of touch. This is done by starting with a sensual massage and building it up to the sexual massage. Ease the tension, relax her and then tease her erogenous zones. It is similar to ice melting into water in a few steps. The process is a great turn on for both you and her, and it is very enjoyable. Give first and you will receive. Enjoy pleasing your wife and both of you will be rewarded for it.

I like to create a relaxed and romantic atmosphere for me and my girl, so I use these 5 ingredients: instrumental music or sounds of nature, musk scented sticks (this is very aphrodisiac), dim lighting, a simple soft sheet I can afford to let the oil drip and oil massage. Not all massage oils are the same. My two favorite brands are Kamasutra (original) and Tantric (Body Spice). These oils taste good (for oral sex) and heat up the skin easily. I prefer Tantric between the two as it stays slippery for a long time instead of drying faster. Tantric is harder to find in adult stores, so you’ll need to do a Google search online. I recently found it for less than $10 for a decent size bottle that will last a long time. Think of yourself as a chef, you can’t cook without proper preparation and chefs need the best ingredients.

Tell your wife that you are going to give her a great massage that will relieve all her stress and make her feel good. Then choose a couple of the following to do in the same session or just one of them.

3 massage tips to create the right mood for sex

1. Full body massage: Rub some oil between your palms and have your lady lie face down on the bed. She starts with the shoulders, upper back, and neck. The amount of pressure will depend on what she prefers. Use your thumbs to apply pressure and don’t stay in one place for too long. Move up and down her arms and end up in her hands, pressing between her fingers and then pulling down her fingers to the tips of hers. After kneading only with the thumb and also with long downward strokes before lifting. Then start on her thighs one at a time until you reach her feet. Give a full foot massage. Once she’s relaxed, work on occasional butt rubs and a few kisses on her erogenous areas like her earlobes and the back of her neck. Place a few kisses on her and gently suck on the sides of her breasts. Lean her slightly to brush her nipples with his tongue. Gradually modify the massage and light brief touches on the erogenous zones. Remember that you want to ease your path to sex. Turn her upside down and return to her legs and feet.

Once she begins to respond positively to sexual touch, start with her vagina. Every girl likes to be touched differently, but for now vary your touches to different areas of her vagina. Don’t stay in one place for too long and change speed. Increase the excitement by not only focusing on her clit. However, when you do, try lightly massaging her clitoris between your thumb and middle and index fingers. Use a motion similar to how you would rub the salt off your fingertips. Stroke the sides of the vaginal walls between the outer and inner labia and the base. Gently rub your G-spot with the tip of your middle finger or both of your middle and index fingers. This is located on the inner side of the stomach, well above the clitoris. It’s an area that feels smooth at first, then after a bit of rubbing, it wrinkles up, similar to the texture of your scrotum. Not all women will find this pleasurable, but many will tremble with excitement. At this point, she will start to engage in the act with you or you could perform cunnilingus on her (oral sex performed on women). This is a whole different topic on its own, but become a cunnilingus master and you will have her day dreaming about you while she is at work.

2. Love messages: It sounds simple, maybe even silly, girls love this! These create a more playful atmosphere to allow you to focus on the moment and not on anything stressful in your life. Women don’t usually like intense and serious foreplay right from the start. First have some more fun while you mix the sensual and sexual touches. Write a message on his back and ask him to guess what it is. Keep messages short, like “You’re sexy.” Write flirty questions like “Where do you want a kiss?” Between messages he returns to the massage. You’ll know he’s having fun when he asks you to rewrite the letters when he can’t figure them out. Work on gradual buttock and leg massages leading to brief, stroking vaginal touches. After about 3 messages, just focus on the massage, and then move on to a full vaginal massage. You’ll both be horny and upset at that point!

3. “Candy Back”: My own accidental invention. Like love messages, the “candy back” is fun and achieves total relaxation. This is simply a back massage while you pretend to create a dessert on your back. You describe baking a cake or cookies (don’t worry, you don’t actually have to be a cook, remember, this is a massage). You mix the flour, add the sugar, knead the dough, push the dough all over the pan (the back), and add whatever toppings and toppings you like. The sillier the ingredients, the more you will laugh, eg mustard, ketchup, etc. So you guessed it, you add the massages and kisses on her erogenous areas and voila.

Have your woman show you how she likes to be touched. How much pressure she wants you to apply, she explores her body, both her genitals and all other areas. What has worked on other girls in the past may not work on your girl now. Keep your fingers and hands oiled at all times or her skin will become irritated. Learn to be good at massaging her and enjoy pleasuring her first and you’ll be on your way to more pleasurable sex more often with less disappointment from hearing those depressing, “Sorry, but I’m just not in the mood right now” words.

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