Getting Back With Your Ex: How Agreeing To A Breakup Can Help

This article will cover two aspects of a breakup: Possibly getting your ex back, while also putting you in a good position to heal. This article puts all your eggs in one basket: get a second chance.

Attitude is vital, both your internal attitude and your attitude perceived by your ex.

There is one main thing you need to understand here, and that is that your words will either reflect your actions or be contradictory to your actions.

They both serve the same purpose, if your goal is to get back together with your ex, and that is to confuse your ex and make him feel insecure. Remember that these two elements are your friends in your effort to get back with your ex. I will explain you more in detail if you just have patience with me.

The first thing I will advise you is to do your best to avoid begging and pleading. This will thwart your efforts to get your ex back quickly. Instead, agree with your ex that the breakup was for the best. That doesn’t mean that you should act happy about it, but rather that you should say something like, “You’re right, I don’t think any of us were happy and I can see why it’s ending. Of course.” I would like to stay together and work on the issues, but it doesn’t make sense if only I want it, so I can see that this is for the best. “

This may seem contradictory to your wishes, but it doesn’t really make sense to stay with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. It is essential that you remain calm and collected during this period. Very difficult to do. I think this is for the best because I know it works first hand. Not when I wanted to get my ex back, which is why it was easy enough to take this attitude, but when I really didn’t care that the relationship ended.

Your ex may wonder, “How can someone I just let not cry about that?” By agreeing to the breakup, you accomplish two things. First, you confuse your ex for your actions. Second, you eliminate the possibility of conflict. Begging, pleading, and trying to change your ex’s mind will only make him defensive.

In the course of the conversation, the idea of ​​being friends will almost certainly come up. You must absolutely agree with this idea. This is where you slowly withdraw. You become distant, you remain happy and supportive, but not always available. Miss the occasional call, return messages the next day, reply to emails after a few days. Do not be at their entire disposal, become a challenge.

Don’t give your ex any comfort by ‘being there’ for him. Don’t give them any idea that you want them back. You must give the impression that you are moving on. You are giving them ‘friendship’, but not the kind of friendship they had in mind. They expect you to maintain a high level of contact, but you don’t. They expect you to ask them to reconcile, but you don’t. If they get angry, etc. then YOU must be the ‘adult’ in the situation. Speak calmly and logically: “We are still friends, but I also have to move on, although I will always be your friend.”

In my own personal experience, an important key to getting an ex back is giving him the impression that you are moving on even faster than he is. Look at it like this, what is the most difficult thing for you to accept that the love of your life leaves you? The fact that someone who was supposed to have a crush on you no longer cares enough to be with you. What is the most difficult thing to accept if you had been the dumper? The idea that the person was unaffected and moving faster than you. It’s a total game about ego and insecurity.

While doing this will not guarantee that you will get your ex back, it will allow you to heal properly or, in most cases, reignite a spark in your ex. Insecurity will lead them to “prove” to themselves that they can still have you and that the breakup really hurts. It can be a bit murky, but as they say, anything is fair in love and war.

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