This Valentine’s Day, give a special touch to everything you have planned by ending the evening with a super fabulous massage just for her. Not only is this selfless act a super romantic way to make her feel special and show how much you love her, but it also gives her a chance to relax and be pampered by you. So get ready to rock her world with a sexy and sensual massage that she will hopefully never forget!
getting ready:
Step 1: choose the space
So before you get to the part where she’s almost (or completely) naked and covered in oil, make sure you’ve got it all figured out. It is important to create a comfortable space free of distractions (ie cell phones turned off) where you can set the scene for a romantic massage. The bedroom is probably an ideal place for most, but creating a smooth surface on the floor works great too. If you’re going to use the bed, make sure it’s well prepared by using clean sheets (don’t mind oil, it can stain) or even cover the bed with towels. Presentation is important here, so make sure it looks good, and whatever you do, no sticky beach towels! If you’re desperate, check the dollar store for some white or neutral-colored towels or sheets that won’t cost you much. Getting massage oil on your 600-thread-count Egyptian cotton bedding is not romantic!
Step 2: Set the mood
Now that you’ve chosen the space, it’s important to make sure you have all the massage elements that are essential to setting the mood and creating the right atmosphere. It’s up to you how far you want to take it, but things like scented candles (avoiding anything too scented or strong), rose petals, and soothing music are all great ways to create a relaxing and romantic atmosphere.
Step 3: Get the Products
Having a good massage oil on hand is essential for a relaxing experience for both of you. Avoid anything that smells too strong and look for massage-specific products, as they provide the nicest texture and won’t absorb too quickly (reapplying every minute ruins the flow). If you’re looking for an alternative to massage oils, there are also massage bars that melt on contact with the skin, as well as massage candles that work like hot oil when poured onto the skin. Although they provide the most pleasurable experience, you don’t necessarily need fancy massage products to get the job done. In a pinch, you can use a rich body butter, baby oil, or sunflower oil, adding a few drops of an essential oil for fragrance. Olive oil is an absolute no! Smelling like a Greek salad is not a good way to get her in the mood. Also avoid lubricant. Sure, it works, but it’s also suggestive and a bit crude. Let’s stay classy.
Application techniques:
Step 4: give the massage
Now the most important part; giving an amazing massage. Once you are lying down, put a pillow under your feet to make you more comfortable. Carefully pour some massage oil into your hands and rub them together. This warms the oil and is better than pouring it directly onto your skin, which can be cold and a bit chilly. Avoid using too much oil, which will make the massage slippery and difficult (you can always add more). Slow and continuous movement is important for a good massage. Allow one stroke to lead to another, as you slowly shift to other areas of your body. Start with the neck and shoulders, using your thumbs and fingertips to gently knead the skin. Apply less pressure to your neck, as this area is often very sensitive to touch. Gradually move in a circular motion from your upper back, to your sides, and then down to your lower back. Apply additional oil as needed and continue down both legs (focusing on one leg at a time), until you reach his feet. Massage the soles of her feet in a steady circular motion with your thumbs, applying a little more pressure to avoid tickling.
Step 5: Know the Pleasure Points
Pay attention to areas of your body that are not frequently stimulated. Try caressing erogenous zones like the backs of the knees, the ears, the back of the neck, and the wrists. Make sure you don’t forget to massage your scalp, as this area is often overlooked during a massage. Just make sure your hands are oil-free if you go near her hair, or that good idea may not go over so well with her.
Step 6: Get their feedback
Communication is the key to an amazing massage. Always pay attention to her body language and how she responds to different strokes, the level of pressure, and where you are massaging her. If you’re not sure, gently ask what feels good and if the pressure is okay. Spend more time on the areas you respond positively to with verbal cues or physical cues of enjoyment.
Other considerations:
Keep distractions to a minimum. This experience should be about the two of you connecting and enjoying your time together, so cell phones, TVs, and any other potential distractions should be eliminated.
Avoid rushing and reserve enough time. To give a massage properly, you should spend at least 20-30 minutes on it. The slower and longer you can massage her, the more relaxing and sensual the experience will be.
Turn up the heat, literally. It’s no fun being exposed and covered in oil when you’re freezing. By keeping the temperature above 75 degrees F, you will ensure that you stay warm and comfortable so you can enjoy the experience.
Be gentle. Go easy, Hulk. It’s important to remember that the level of pressure you might prefer is probably not the best for her. It’s delicate and women are much more sensitive to touch than men, so it relieves pressure. Unless she requests otherwise, she will generally prefer light and gentle petting.
Don’t forget the extras. This all depends on your relationship level, personal preferences, and your imagination. Incorporating other elements can eventually take a sensual massage into more naughty territory and be a perfect way to spice it up a bit. Items like feather ticklers, hot lubes, blindfolds, and edible body paint are great ways to add some sexy fun.