Getting older does not necessarily mean that there is a decline in the appearance or sex of the elderly. In fact, older age can provide the freedom to explore and experience sexual pleasures.
Advancing in age provides freedom to explore and enjoy our sexuality. Just because you’ve reached the so-called “golden” age doesn’t mean you’re holed up in a retirement home waiting for the end of the line. In fact, getting older can give you the luxury of enjoying exciting intimate relationships.
Sex after 60 is not a fantasy or an unattainable dream. Yes, you may have lines and wrinkles, deflated muscles, and skin that appears a size too large for your body. And that? Beauty is not something that only other people forty years younger than you enjoy. Your beauty and self-expression have been developed and perfected by the not-so-perfect reflection staring back at you in the mirror.
Some tips and tidbits
Ladies:
1. Never, ever rise above your lover and look him in the eye! When we were young, the skin on our face enhanced our beauty without betrayal. But, now the skin can sag and hang loose when we bend down. If you want to see what I mean, bend over and look down into a mirror! No further explanation or description is needed on this!
2. Lie on your back as much as possible. This position helps camouflage deflated buttocks, sagging breasts, sagging arms, and sagging facial skin.
3. Candlelight or diffuse lighting is a girl’s best friend! Afternoon sex is lovely, but the harsh light of day blows up blemishes, wrinkles and extra pounds! Strive for a dark room or be safe and enjoy sexual intimacy once the sun has gone down.
4. Lubricants may be a necessity, but they are not required visuals. If you need extra moisture, you can apply them before or during foreplay, but try sensually anointing your genitals, like inviting your partner to watch some self-arousal techniques.
5. The sexual organs are not the only component of the human anatomy that is involved with the older sex. Fantasies can add new dimensions to intimate experiences. Vocalizing and acting out fantasies with your partner can stimulate sexual urges and give you food for thought. If you want to expose specific fantasies, costumes are available. But talk about fantasy play with your partner before you surprise him. Make sure he is open to fantasy play. Remember, sexual fantasies should not cause your partner anger, jealousy, or pain. Fantasies should be enjoyable and enhance sexual intimacy.
mens:
6. Never, ever parade in those baggy, ripped, or yellow boxer shorts or boxers (this can ruin a perfectly good sexual experience)! Boxers and briefs can be sexy and attractive IF they are the perfect fit and length. Buy briefs that reach mid-thigh and fit well over the penis. You don’t want it to look like you’re about to burst through the fabric, but you also don’t want your boxers to look like they’re about to fall off at any moment. There are some sexy body suits available (similar to a weightlifter’s clothing). There are racer back tanks and of course if you still have tight abs and glutes then by all means wear a thong!
7. Don’t overlook the magic of silk for men. A silk kimono can be touched and has a cozy feel. The kimono can hide deflated chest muscles, a bulging stomach, or sagging buns.
8. De-emphasize thinning or balding with sexy, tasteful clothing. Senior sex may not be about receding hairlines, but adding a little flair can only make the moment better.
9. If male enhancement pills are necessary, don’t advertise that you must take a pill to get an erection. Be discreet, there is no need to express performance problems during intimacy.
10. If you like sex toys, be sure to discuss it with your partner before showing off dildos, vibrators, or strap-ons. Honesty, expectations, and personal desires are a two-way street!
11. Fantasies can add to the sexual experience. Some reasons for exploring fantasies and role-playing are explained in Paragraph 5 of the checkers section. But never insist that your partner participate in your fantasies, or require them to wear costumes or participate in role-playing games. Fantasies are not real and should not cause your partner distress, inhibitions, or pain. In other words, an older person’s sexual fantasies should be an exciting and fun-filled imaginary journey.
12. If lubricants or stimulating creams and oils are used, invite your partner to apply them to your penis. Of course, this is not necessary, but the interaction can enhance the sexual experience and desire.
Spontaneity is a wonderful tool for older people. But, planning can be advantageous for many who require time for medications to show their effectiveness, ie Viagra. Sex toys can play an important role because, unlike the virility of young people, the stamina and erection of older people tend to disappoint or disappear almost as quickly as they came. Sex toys, lotions and lubricants can now be considered essential in senior sex in the face of absurdity.
Yes, sex after 60 is different in many ways. The female body is not the uptight, perky physique you’ve (most likely) taken for granted. The male body may no longer be endowed with a masculine chest, a full head of hair, a firm and tight stomach, muscular arms and legs. Maybe the pectorals sag and look feminine. Female breasts, most likely, show more sagging and less attractiveness. Buttocks may no longer be tight and firm, faces are cursed with double chins and less than full lips, and skin that refuses to fit tightly into the frame. But the reward of intimate contact and high-end sex is still alive and well.
Accepting who we are, what we have and loving ourselves is the final destination. Once we debunk peer pressure, discard youth-oriented ad campaigns, and see the beauty within ourselves, we begin to live.
Older people still have and share many intimate thoughts and desires. Unfortunately, many hide their feelings and continue on a lonely journey. Okay, you’ve reached the age of 60. You have not been cursed, you have been wounded, and you have gained much knowledge along the way in life’s journey. Now relax and enjoy the rest of the trip.
Above all, show respect and consideration for your partner, and the enjoyment and euphoria of the older sexual experience can be as explosive as ever.