The best way to get your ex back, believe it or not, may be to pretend you don’t care. The underlying reason this works so well is that it makes your ex wonder why you don’t care when you used to constantly call them and beg for a second chance.
I’m sure you’ve seen this theory work in other areas of your life. When you head to a dealership to buy a new car, it’s normal to prepare for battle, right? You take it easy, pretend you could live without the car, even walk away when the salesman quotes you a ridiculous price. You know those are the strategies to get the best deal.
If you were to run up to the dealer and tell him how much you absolutely need to have that new car and that you would do anything to get it home right away, do you know what would happen? You’d pay through the nose for that car. The salesperson would have a field day with you and be smiling for a month. The seller will play on your obvious and urgent desire to have that car and he will squeeze everything you are worth.
The same concept applies regarding the best way to get your ex back. If it’s so obvious that you’re still interested, he or she has nothing to lose by keeping an eye on you in the background. They know that if something better doesn’t come along, you’ll still be there, eager for a second chance.
If you were suddenly not as anxious and were no longer calling or making desperate attempts to get their attention, they will start trying to figure out why. It’s part of human nature to doubt ourselves when someone we thought was interested in us starts showing signs that he’s not interested anymore. It gets personal. I thought they really liked me? I thought you were waiting for me? Could they have found someone new?
Unfortunately, some people break up with their girlfriend or boyfriend just to test the relationship. They get a boost to their own ego, and a twisted feeling of confirmation, when they know you’re bringing them down a lot by missing them.
To exercise the best way to get your ex back, stop calling them and stop trying to reach them. Start hanging out with your friends again and doing things that you know your ex will listen to. While you’re waiting for your ex to find out why she doesn’t seem interested anymore, study basic relationship skills. Find and develop the skills that will help you build a happier, healthier relationship with your ex.